Nancy Davis O’Hara

When her mother grew ill, Nancy Davis O’Hara learned the lesson “You take care of your elders” from her husband’s large immigrant family.

Nancy Davis O’Hara ’82 had no role model for being a caregiver for her mother. She grew up in a small family in Massachusetts far from her extended family in the South. When her father was diagnosed with bladder cancer, he kept the disease a secret, even from his wife, until shortly before his death. “I wouldn’t have understood caregiving from the little I saw,” she says.

So when O’Hara’s mother needed looking after, she took her cues from her husband. “He grew up in a big family with lots of cousins, many living a stone’s throw from each other,” she explains. In that Irish immigrant culture, she says, “You take care of your elders.”

Although caregiving is a nearly universal experience, not everyone experiences the issue in the same way. Gender, culture and even sexual identity all play a part.

Benjamin Capistrant, assistant professor at the Smith School for Social Work, looks at caregiving within and across different populations. In India, for example, there is a strong multigenerational structure for caregiving with specific expectations for who gives care to family members. Parents care for their parents, as their offspring look on. “It’s as if they’re saying, ‘This is what we do for each other, and this is what I expect you to one day do for me,’” Capistrant says.

Another model comes from the LGBTQ community, which has developed caregiving networks based on chosen family, he says. Since many gay couples don’t have children of their own, elders in that community can’t always rely on offspring to help out. Also, many members of the LGBTQ community lose family support when they come out. Plus, Capistrant says, “Some lessons have been learned from the AIDS  epidemic,” when gay men and lesbians worked together to develop care networks and advocacy strategies for people suffering from a disease that was inadequately addressed, or downright ignored, because of institutional homophobia. New models of care by chosen families arose, and a blend of activism, compassion and care saved lives and offered comfort to the dying and grief-stricken survivors, says Capistrant.

Just as the approaches to caregiving vary by culture, so too do the effects on the caregivers themselves. White caregivers, for instance, are more likely to report stress-related conditions, including increased risk of cardiovascular disease, hypertension and depression, Capistrant says. According to various studies, including a 2015 study published by the Journals of Gerontology, members of communities of color more often rate positive aspects of caregiving more highly than Caucasians do, Capistrant says.

Based on work he and his colleagues are engaged in, he speculates that in communities that think more collectively, caregiving may be less psychologically taxing. “They see that this is an expression of my love for this person,” he says. 

In reporting for her book, The Caregivers: A Support Group’s Stories of Slow Loss, Courage, and Love, Nell Lake ’89 witnessed how caregiving support groups themselves can create the culture of care that families might not have access to through their own networks of
kin. The support group she wrote about met in a basement room at Cooley Dickinson Hospital in Northampton. Lake recalls that descending into that windowless space, cocooned by the sound of whirring fans, felt like entering a private and confidential realm. There, people caring for family members could share a range of emotions and receive empathetic attention, as well as share resources and advice. It gave them a sense of being part of a larger world.

The proliferation of caregiver support groups—the burgeoning Alzheimer’s community is a good example—has helped to catalyze greater awareness of, and research about, caregiver needs and best practices. Capistrant points to a 1996 study published in the Journal of
the American Medical Association, which showed that spouses who received counseling and attended support groups were able to keep their loved ones with Alzheimer’s home longer, thus delaying nursing home admission and cutting expenses related to long-term institutional care.

Although caregiving, like much of women’s traditional work, primarily takes place in the private sphere, it also has implications in the wider world. The caregiving work at home may have negative health consequences, which can affect employee productivity and businesses’ bottom lines.

“It’s important for caregivers—and especially women—to realize that while this is a very private activity,” Lake says, “it is also part of a very public issue.”

 

SAQ, Winter 2018–19