Happy Mom, Happy Kids
I have worked full time in law and finance for the last (gulp) 30 years. Our children are pretty cool and well-adjusted, if I say so myself. Looking back, here is what I think helped the most with juggling it all:
- I have a husband/partner who is committed to doing at least 50 percent of the work of parenting and running a household. He always had a flexible schedule, while my schedule was not so flexible.
- Be clear about your priorities. While the kids were at home I rarely ran an errand or had an appointment with someone that wasn’t either near where I work, where I live or in between. When I was asked to chair a committee for the local Smith club, I said OK, but only if the committee could meet during the day and at my law firm.
- Buy as much help as you can when you need it most, so you can spend the time you want to with your kids.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff (a dirty room never killed anyone).
- Be as present as you possibly can be when you walk through the door.
One of the great things about having a family is being able to create a family culture that reflects you and your partner’s values. Having an engaged, happy and competent mother is good for kids.
—Elizabeth Lentini ’79, two children, 23 and 25
SAQ, Winter 2015–16