When I came back from maternity leave two years ago, I was very torn about whether I wanted to be in the workforce or figure out a solution to stay home. I liked my job, though, and decided to give it a try. I asked my boss for what I needed to smooth the transition and still meet my team’s needs. I came back a few days a week for a while, and then was able to work out a compressed schedule where I’d squeeze my work hours into nine days and be off every other Friday. I also arrived earlier and left earlier to maximize time that my husband or I would be with our baby. This accommodation was a lifesaver in helping me figure out how to give the best of myself to my family. I was lucky, but would never have known if I hadn’t asked. Leaving my job would be a significant hit for my family, but my husband and I keep that conversation open. What has helped most of all is kindness. Be kind to yourself, and be kind to each other.
—Kelly Pruden Grassi ’08, one child, 2
SAQ, Winter 2015–16