We chose to live in a midsized city, where we thought life would be more manageable than in a large city, where we were pre-kids. That turned out to be a completely unexpected but great choice. We kept our expenses low, so we would have flexibility. It also allowed us to cut back on work. You hear a lot about child care, but you don’t hear much about how important it is to be around when the kids are older; tweens and teens need an adult presence, in my opinion.
There is a lot of pressure on women to be perfect mothers. Let it go. Give up on competitive cupcakes. Get help when you need it and pay those who help you well (those from ’82 will undoubtedly remember President Conway giving us that advice at our Baccalaureate).
—Allison Sagraves Connors ’82, three children, 16, 18 and 22
SAQ, Winter 2015–16