Being the mother I want to be meant that I needed a career that afforded greater flexibility. Instead of teaching, I found a research position that was right in my area of interest and a boss who is the very definition of family friendly. He supported my decision to ease back up to full time with my first, and now my second, child; he allows me to work from home a couple of days a week; he knows that there are doctors’ appointments, sick days and all sorts of personal days associated with parenting that can’t be scheduled, that just happen, and will work with all of that hullabaloo without asking me about it or telling me that I need to change anything. Balance cannot be thought of as an equal distribution of everything in your life on a daily basis. Do I feel loved; do I feel happy; am I safe and cared for? Can all my appendages say the same? If the answer is yes, then there is balance.
—Elizabeth Pufall Jones ’98, two children, 1 and 4 (written while pumping at work)
SAQ, Winter 2015–16